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Shirley Rose – my birth story

Shirley Rose – my birth story

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It came as a massive surprise to many when we posted the birth of Shirley on our Instagram and Facebook feed. You see, we had not made any formal announcement that I was even pregnant. So there were people who literally had no idea I was pregnant.

Because we lost Gus, it was an extremely stressful pregnancy. I was monitored closely by maternal-fetal medicine, with ultrasounds every two weeks starting in my 3rd trimester: extra labs, extra OB appointments, and talk of induction. My dreams of ever going into labor naturally flew out the window.

After losing Gus, I had some mild PTSD and severe social anxiety. Being around people and navigating what they would say to me (or not say to me), was extremely challenging. With my growing tummy, it only further aggravated the situation. So I wore loose-fitting clothes, dresses that were one size too big, and prayed people wouldn’t notice. Not because I was ashamed. But because I didn’t want them to think I had moved on, or that Shirley was replacing Gus. I didn’t want them to question or judge our choice to have another child. And while the opinions of others shouldn’t matter, it did. And it made it easier to not publically make it known that I was pregnant until we had no other choice. Those close to us, friends and family knew and prayed for us daily. But otherwise, we kept things hush.

As we approached Shirley’s due date, my anxiety ramped up, and the urge to get her here picked up the pace. I checked the schedules of my midwives to see who was on call different days during the week they wanted to induce me(39). I scheduled my induction when I knew the midwife who delivered both Adelaide and Gus would be on call. November 27th.

On our way to the hospital that morning, it was brisk, and our hearts anxiously determined. We passed an Amish shop along the way that had a sign” Free subs if your name is Faith or John.” We laughed, because we never see my name on things like that, and kept driving.

We arrived at the hospital around 8 am, got checked in, and started with a pill called Cytotec around 11 am to “ripen the cervix.” Things began to progress. Contractions regularly came, though not very strong. They gave me the option of continuous monitoring or intermittent. I chose continuous. I needed to hear her heartbeat steadily coming.

I felt okay with how things were progressing, but a few hours later, while resting, a hoard of nurses rushed in and placed an oxygen mask on my face and began to fuss with my monitor. I had no idea what was happening until they informed me baby’s heartbeat had slowed down, but that it was back up now. They said it can occur when a baby grabs onto the cord or twists a funny way. They told me everything was fine and not to worry. But I did, and if you’ve had a baby, you know those monitors don’t sit well on your belly. And if you’ve lost a baby, you know how stressful having a baby after that loss is. They said they had a new wireless monitor that they’ve been starting to use and asked if I would be interested. Of course, I was. In normal circumstances, I would have wanted as little intervention as possible. Still, now, I needed to know she was safe.

They hooked me up the new monitor, and it was a total game-changer. I could get up, walk around, bounce on a birthing ball, eat, all while hearing the steady thumping of Shirley’s heartbeat. It was life-giving to my soul. One of our two doulas arrived. Jenny and Holly were with us throughout Gus’ labor delivery, so we didn’t hesitate to have them join our team in getting Shirley here. Being unsure of the day, we had Jenny come sooner rather than later. I am SO thankful for the strength and focus they brought to me that day.

We started the Pitocin that afternoon, and things began picking up. But by 7:30 pm, I was still only at about 4-5 centimeters. I was pretty bummed. The midwife asked if I would like her to break my water and felt convinced once that happened, things would move quickly. I joked that I wanted to get Shirley here before midnight. Not for any actual reason except I wanted to go into labor and have a baby on the same day for once(my labor with Adelaide was 47 hours long, and Gus was over 30 hours). And oh boy did things start to move.

The contractions came on with force and intensity. I now had to breathe and focus on getting through them mindfully. And within an hour or so, I was screaming through them. Unlike any pain I have ever experienced. Of course, I asked for an epidural at this point, but was told, it’s too late, you’re almost there, you can do this. I had epidurals with Gus and Adelaide, and both times, it made me very sick. In fact, my blood pressure dropped dangerously low, and with Gus, they turned it off altogether. So I was determined to go without one this time around until I went from 5-10 centimeters in just about 2-3 hours. I am so thankful for my doulas and Nathan for how they coached me through it and cheered me on, reminding me to focus and breathe. Women who calmly breathe through contractions in the late stages of labor amaze me. I am not one of those women.

Around 11, the midwife checked and asked if I wanted to push, which of course, I did! After everything was set up, I pushed about three times, and she was here! I wanted the pain to stop, and I knew getting her here would help the pain alleviate.

Now, what I didn’t mention is that I was the only laboring woman on the whole floor that day. So ALL (literally all) of the nurses excitedly rushed in when they heard we were going to start pushing. Only to be sorely disappointed when it only lasted 4 minutes.

Shirley was finally here, but the pediatrician looked concerned. She wasn’t crying very loudly, and she was somewhat rigid in her movements. They gave me some time skin to skin, and then took Shirley away and began to check her over. My heart sank, I felt like I was going to vomit, all the relief and exhaustion and joy replaced with complete terror. The doctor started asking me a string of questions, from were you on any medications, do you have any underlying health conditions, did you take any herbs, they went on and on. My chest constricted, and I resolved myself not to cry.

They said they were going to take her to the NICU and do a chest x-ray. After they took her away, my heart sank. There was a painful silence. No one wanted to say a word. We just sat and held our breath. After the longest 10 minutes of my life, the doctor came back and said they would be bringing her back to us, and she seemed fine and recovered before they even checked her in. I felt relief wash over me, and when they brought her back to me to try to nurse, she instantly latched on.

Unfortunately, though, my grief and the trauma made it extremely hard for me to bond with her. I felt like I should have this beautiful moment, where all felt right in the world, but I didn’t. I was relieved she was here, but it didn’t feel real. I felt like I was living outside of my body, watching things happen but feeling disconnected.

We stayed overnight, and we noticed Shirley was vomiting a lot. They said it wasn’t uncommon with baby’s who had been pushed out quickly. The pressure of pushing helps to get fluid out of their nose and ears, but when that pressure isn’t there, it can get it stuck, and it takes a while to work it’s way out. Shirley failed her first hearing test, and they also chalked it up to fluid in her ears. After passing her test the next morning, we were allowed to go home.

Of course, if you’ve been following along for a while, you will know that Shirley’s story hasn’t gotten easier. From extreme colic, a severe lip and tongue tie, and many many sleepless nights, to seizures and developmental delays, to a diagnosis of SCN8A we have gone from one challenge to the next.

But the beauty in her story is the way she and I bonded. It wasn’t a quick thing. In fact, the colic, screaming all day and all night, projectile vomiting on me every time I nursed her, made it difficult for me to bond with her. I cared for her because I had to, but I felt like I was continually failing her. Unable to be enough. It wasn’t until she had her first seizure that things shifted. I realized how precious she was to me and how my resentment was unfounded. I realized just how profound my love for her was, and I hate that it took me almost losing her to realize that.

I don’t say this for pity, but in hopes that some other new mama out there struggling with feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and having trouble bonding with your new baby, can find encouragement. It’s okay. Give yourself lots of time. You aren’t crazy for not loving the newborn stage. There isn’t something wrong because you don’t feel “magic” when you meet your new baby – because what even is that anyway? The world proclaims that motherhood is a wonderous thing that “happens” and that the bond between you and your baby is instantaneous.

But that’s not reality. Everyone’s story is different and shaped by a loving God who knows what you need to grow in faithfulness. I needed Shirley. I needed Gus. And Lord knows I need Adelaide. All of these beautiful children are developing my understanding of faithfulness. They are growing my love for others and God. And they are sharpening my understanding of my desperate need for God. But more than that, they are teaching me what it means to long for glory.

Oh my sweet Shirley girl, what a year it’s been. How far you’ve come. How hard you have fought. And how beautiful your relentless joy is to all those who get to experience it. I thank God for you every moment of every day. You are one of my greatest gifts.

Photo credit:Blythe Photography

Paleo Pear & Cranberry Muffins – Grain-Free, Dairy-Free, Nut-Free, Refined Sugar Free

Paleo Pear & Cranberry Muffins – Grain-Free, Dairy-Free, Nut-Free, Refined Sugar Free

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I have a thing with muffins.

I think they may be my favorite thing to make, and these pear & cranberry muffins are no exception. I had a few folks asking for a nut-free recipe since most of my baking usually involves almond flour. I don’t tolerate some of the other gluten-free flours, like cassava and tigernut, plus we try to stay low carb, so that left me with coconut flour.

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE coconut flour, but it can be extremely finicky. It can cause the texture to become grainy, or the overall product insanely dry. BUT, these muffins are anything but grainy or dry.

They are deliciously moist and light. Not too dense, and not at all overly heavy. Just filing enough to stand on their own for a grab and go breakfast, and light enough to be an afternoon snack.

I love the gentle sweetness the pear brings, and the bright sharpness of the fresh cranberries. I have not tried it with dried cranberries, but if you do, let me know how it goes! I imagine it would make the overall muffin sweeter, and remove some of the sharpness you get from using fresh cranberries.

I hope you enjoy these muffins as much as I do! They would make a great pre-thanksgiving dinner snack or a beautiful addition to any Christmas day brunch. I can promise you; they will be made for Shirley’s 1st birthday party as a great sweet alternative to the cupcakes my mom will be making!

Let me know what you think in the comments!

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Paleo Cranberry Pear Cardamom Muffins - Nut-Free, Dairy-Free, Grain-Free, Low-Carb

These warm and spicy muffins are the perfect treat for your pre-thanksgiving indulgence, or on Christmas morning.
Prep Time8 mins
Cook Time18 mins
Course: Appetizer, Breakfast, Dessert, Side Dish, Snack
Cuisine: American, Dairy-free, Gluten Free, LowCarb, Nut-FRee, Paleo
Keyword: Dairyfree, Muffins, Winter Flavors
Servings: 12
Calories: 119kcal

Ingredients

  • 1/2 Cup Coconut Flour
  • 1/4 Cup Arrowroot Starch Can sub Tapioca Starch
  • 2 Scoops collagen peptides Vanilla flavored
  • 4 Tbsp Coconut Sugar
  • 1/2 Tsp Baking Soda
  • 1/2 Tsp Baking Powder
  • 1 Tsp Cardamom
  • 1 Tsp Cinnamon
  • 1/4 Tsp Sea salt
  • 1/2 Tsp Apple Cider Vinegar
  • 2 Tbsp Coconut Oil melted
  • 1 Tsp Vanilla extract
  • 1/4 Cup Coconut Milk
  • 5 Large Eggs
  • 1/3 Cup Cranberries chopped
  • 1 Cup Pears skinned and diced

Instructions

  • Start by preheating your oven to 350.
  • Next, mix together your dry ingredients in a medium-sized mixing bowl
  • Add your wet ingredients to your dry and stir well. Let sit for 2-3 minutes to allow the coconut flour to absorb the liquid
  • Next fold in your pears and cranberries
  • Spray a muffin tin or line with paper liners, and fill cups about 1/2 full
  • Bake in preheated oven for 18-20 minutes
  • Remove from oven and let cool for 3-5 minutes before removing from muffin pan

Notes

I have never made these with 
Loving the Special Needs Parent in your Life – Part 4 – Encouragement

Loving the Special Needs Parent in your Life – Part 4 – Encouragement

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This post has taken a lot of contemplation and thought, as it feels very personal and raw to share these ways to encourage the special needs parent in your life because these things are things that I too need from those around me.

In my last post, I shared practical ways to serve the tired special needs parent in your life, but in this post, I’m going to hone in on ways to encourage them.

It’s probably evident by now, but special needs parents not only bear a lot of physical stress but emotional stress. Every day, we face the grief of our child’s challenges, suffering, and future. This emotional stress wears a soul down. We need encouragement. We need someone to help us lift our eyes to see the sunshine rather than the puddles.

 

  1. LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN; Don’t try to fix it. Just let them vent to you. You may not understand, but your willingness to listen to the dark parts of their lives and hearts, and do so without an appalled look on your face, means the world to them. When I asked special needs parents in various groups I’m in, what things made them feel most encouraged, loved, and served, this is their #1 answer. Someone to listen to them without judging or offering their opinions. Someone unafraid of their tears and turmoil.
  2. Speak Truth; You may not know this, but it’s tough to reconcile all the emotions that come with raising a child with special needs. You feel failure, guilt, shame, anger, rage, depression, anxiety, and a host of other very dark and painful emotions. It can be nearly impossible to find the light when in the trenches and hard seasons. So remind us gently of the truth that God loves us and is near. We don’t need lecturing, but we need help finding the truth. Help us to cling to God when our fingers are raw from grasping too tightly for too long. Help us search for the positives rather than the defeats. Help us remember God’s promises to never leave or forsake us.
  3. Pray with us and for us; be specific in your prayers for us and be realistic. I was challenged by my counselor to write out practical prayer requests. Such as “strength to get out of bed each morning” or “patience when my special needs child and other child need my attention at the same time” or “relief from migraines.” So often, people pray for a miracle for Shirley, and while that is not wrong, what I need is prayer to face the challenges of each day. Ask your friend to give you tangible things you can pray for, and if possible, stop and pray with them then and there.
  4. Text us, call us, write to us, without expecting anything in return; It may seem insensitive of your friend to not respond to your text message encouraging them, but it’s not because they don’t care. Most special needs parents spend the day on calls with pharmacies, doctors, therapists, working with their child, doing as much as possible in the small windows of time we have to clean our homes or make food to eat. I personally physically cannot always respond to every person that reaches out to encourage me (though I do try, it’s not always timely). But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t lift my spirits and encourage me tremendously, it just means I am juggling a lot, and I cannot do all things well, and often balls get dropped.
  5. Be patient with us; Parenting, in general, can make you lose yourself if you’re not well tethered to Christ. Parenting a child who is medically complex demands even more of that parent’s attention and focus. After so long of living in the reality of blood draws, and therapy, and hospital trips, we can forget how to talk to people outside of that world. I forget how to simply be a friend or a wife or a daughter because I’m consumed with being a caregiver and advocate 24/7. Be patient when we’re quiet or awkward. Be patient when it seems we’re struggling with the same things for months or years on end.
So while there is more I could say, I will leave it at that. If you are a special needs parent, please comment and let me know if there are other ways you have been encouraged. And if you aren’t a special needs parent, please let me know if this series was helpful for you!

 

Immune Boosting Citrus Elderberry Syrup

Immune Boosting Citrus Elderberry Syrup

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It is no surprise that elderberry syrup is a significant trend in the health food community right now. And as that trend builds, you see the big name brand companies jumping on board that ship and making their elderberry syrup and gummies and supplements.

Sadly, most of these mass-produced products are filled with artificial sugars, or they are just plain loaded with sugar. Now, even the best of the sugars, like honey, are still SUGAR. They still have an impact on your blood sugar regulation and must be treated with care. Translation, save the sweets for the times when the benefits outweigh the drawbacks (or at least when you need a sweet tooth craving satisfied.

Not only are these name brand syrups loaded with sugar, but you have no control over the quality of ingredients found in them. And many brands nowadays are cleverly slapping the word “natural” on their labels to appeal to the “crunchy” parent who may not think to read the label. So here’s your PSA – Always read the labels.

So while it may be easier to pick up a bottle at the store, it is so much better to make it yourself, and you will save some money in the long run. A 1lb bag of elderberries on amazon runs about $20. I can quickly get 3-5 batches of syrup out of that bag. Plus, it makes the whole house smell AMAZING!

I store this in my fridge for just over a month in a mason jar with a tight-fitting lid. Nathan and I try to take a tablespoon a day, and Adelaide has been getting a teaspoon a day since before she was 2. Now it is important to note because this has honey in it, it is not suitable for children under 1. You could sub the honey for something like maple syrup, but you’re going to lose the health benefits that come from the honey. You could also omit it entirely, but it had a moderately bitter taste, and I couldn’t get Addie to take it without.

Now, as a bonus, after I make my batch of syrup, I will add my berries and such back to my saucepan, and add three more cups of water to create a more diluted version, an elderberry spiced tea if you will. I do not add honey to this, and Nathan will drink it by the cup when he feels run down, to help his immune system keep up. I’ll also use this tea to make my Elderberry GUMMIES!

In addition to drinking this, which is LOADED With vitamin C, my advice to you is,

  1. Go for a walk outside in the sun – most individuals are vitamin D deficient, and vitamin D is a crucial player in our immune systems. Not only that, but we tend to become less active in the chilly months, which also puts a strain on our immune response.
  2. Rest  – Now that I told you to get moving, I’m also going to ask you to rest! This time of year is crazy busy, with the holidays quickly approaching, the end of the year wrapping up projects, school, etc. It’s like everything goes into overdrive. Our bodies become stressed and weary. So please, REST. REST. REST.
  3. Cut back on the junk food or sweets – I am the first to admit that as the weather gets chilly, I want all the comfort foods, and I start baking every day. Sugar and excess carbs can do a number on your immune system. So make sure you’re eating your greens, healthy fats and proteins, and eating to live, not living to eat.

Nathan and I drink a tablespoon a day, and Addie drinks a teaspoon a day. If we are feeling sick or something coming on, we’ll do our normal dose, and then half the dose every 4-5 hours. The only thing you’ll want to be careful about is, Elderberry can get your GI system moving – if you know what I mean. So make sure to not overdo it.

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Immune Boosting Citrus Elderberry Syrup

This sweet cocktail will keep your immune system fighting when germs are at their worst!
Prep Time5 mins
Cook Time2 hrs
Course: Snack
Cuisine: American, Gluten Free, Paleo
Keyword: AIP, Dairyfree, Elderberry, Gluten Free, Paleo

Ingredients

  • 1 Cup Dried Elderberries
  • 5 Cups Filtered Water
  • 3 Slices Orange
  • 1/2 tsp Whole Cloves
  • 1 Stick Cinnamon
  • 2 Tbsp Ginger Root Peeled and diced
  • 3/4 Cup Raw Honey

Instructions

  • Start by rinsing your elderberries using a fine mesh strainer
  • Add all of your ingredients except for the honey to a small saucepan and heat over medium
  • Bring ingredients to a simmer, turn the heat down to medium-low, and let sit for 1-2 hours
  • After simmering, strain the syrup and add the liquid to a glass mason jar or another container
  • After cooling, add honey and mix well. It will be harder to mix as the liquid cools, but adding the honey when your syrup is too hot will kill the good stuff in your honey
  • Store with a tight-fitting lid in the fridge for up to a month
Immune Boosting Elderberry Kombucha Gummies

Immune Boosting Elderberry Kombucha Gummies

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If you have been following me for a while, you will know I love drinking niche and healthy things like elderberry syrup (click for recipe) and kombucha. In fact, kombucha is one of my favorite drinks, so you can imagine my dismay when I had to give it up for a while when nursing Shirley due to the minimal caffeine.

Thankfully, I can get away with very small amounts now, so gummies like these are a-okay! This is great because not only are they tasty but they are a great way to quickly boost your immune system.

 

Kombucha, being full of probiotics and fermentation, is great for your gut health. And you may or may not know this, but there is a huge uptick in studies connecting overall health with the state of your gut.Even many going as far as to connect gut health, with brain development and activity. Like I need another reason to drink kombucha.

While these molds make the CUTEST little gummies, you don’t need to have a gummy/candy/chocolate mold in order to make these gummies! A sheet pan will work perfectly! You’ll just need to cut the gummies after they set.

I hope you enjoy these gummies as much as our family does! Addie and I eat one every morning with our breakfast.

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Immune Boosting Elderberry Kombucha Gummies

These are a crowd-pleaser for kids and adults alike
Prep Time5 mins
Cook Time5 mins
Resting Time2 hrs
Course: Side Dish, Snack
Cuisine: American
Keyword: AIP, Elderberry, Gluten Free, Healthy, Paleo

Ingredients

  • 7 Tbsp Grass-Fed Gelatin
  • 1 Cup Plain Kombucha
  • 1 Cup Elderberry Tea You can also use Elderberry Syrup, just omit honey
  • 1 Tbsp Raw Honey

Instructions

  • Warm the Kombucha and Elderberry Tea on the stovetop over medium-low heat
  • Add the raw honey and stir to dissolve
  • Sprinkle the gelatin into the mix, and whisk well until completely dissolved
  • Carefully use a spoon to pour the mixture into gummy molds, or pour onto a baking sheet
  • Place in the fridge for 2-3 hours to set
  • Remove gummy's from the molds or cut into bite-size squares and store in an airtight container for up to 2 weeks

Notes

Note: the Elderberry tea can be made by reusing the berries and spices from a batch of elderberry syrup. It is still good, just not quite as potent.
Loving the Special Needs Parent in your Life – Part 3 – Practical Ways

Loving the Special Needs Parent in your Life – Part 3 – Practical Ways

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Last week I shared 5 ways to prepare to love that special needs parent in your life. Now I want to tackle practical ways you can serve them. Think, boots on the ground, helping.

 

Learn how to care for their child; depending on the severity and condition of their child, and your abilities, take the time to learn how to care for their child. Teaching you maybe work for this parent at first, to teach someone how to do everything they have been doing without a second thought. But it will help them in the long run to have a friend or two that feels confident in stepping in for a bit if they get sick and need help, or need an hour to get out of the house or a date night.

Feed them; This seems like a simple thing, but it can also be very stressful. So let me elaborate. We cannot eat gluten, grains, dairy, soy, refined sugar, nightshades, or legumes. The most precious people are those who asked me to send them recipes our family could eat and promised to prepare them for us as such. Others purchased gift cards for places that had options for things we could eat. Not everyone is as restrictive as we are, but many kiddos with special needs have specific dietary requirements, and often families will adjust their diet to make it easier for their unique child. Cash is also helpful for the food court when we are at the hospital or have food ordered and brought to us. When your kid is struggling, the last thing on your mind is eating and taking care of yourself.

Give them company and listen; Normal parenting can be lonely. Special needs parenting can be entirely isolating. The days and nights are long, and many parents live in the reality that any day could be their child’s last. So show up. Hang out at their home, play with their other children, wash their dishes, chat with them. Don’t offer solutions or try to fix the problem. Just listen and be there. Ask questions if you want to understand better. These are our babies, our lifeblood, and you can bet that we have scoured every deep recess of google to find any glimmer of hope. We know the ins and outs of our child’s condition and can explain it better than most doctors. Special needs parents don’t need you to fix it. We need you to walk alongside us and support us in the journey.

Home maintenance and chores; Especially in our case with Shirley, we never know what a day or night will bring. Her condition waxes and wanes, so some days are bad and some are good. Parents of kids with special needs live on the edge, never knowing when a meltdown, sickness, or flareup will come. Mowing the grass, doing dishes, scrubbing floors, it is the farthest thing from our minds. And while sometimes, cleaning my house is therapeutic, it also takes me from something else that I should be doing that’s more important. Offer to come and clean. Show up and pull the weeds. It has worked out a few times that someone has come to clean our home while we were in the hospital with Shirley. It felt magical after being in the hospital with Shirley for a few days to come home to a clean and tidy home. I could rest and recoup from the ordeal.

Offer to watch their other children; When our complex kiddos are at their worst, it’s easy for their siblings to get lost in the shuffle. And try as we might, we can’t do it all. So take their kiddos out to the park or the library. Have them over to your home to play with your kids. Adelaide has a standing play date every Wednesday with a dear friend from church, who happens to be 80 years old. Addie will tell you; Mary Alice is her best friend. Time with Mary Alice is precious to Addie. She has undivided attention and I focus my energy on other things that need to be done.

 

These 5 things are, by all means, not a comprehensive list. And that said, many families’ situations look different and may have different levels of needs. My friend Brianna, who also has a sweet, medically complex little gal named Shirley, has posted 12 Practical Ways to Support Parents with a Child in the Hospital, and it is a fantastic list geared towards parents in the hospital with their kiddos! Be sure to check it out.

Creamy Salmon Veggie Noodle Casserole – Keto, Paleo, Dairy Free, Grain Free

Creamy Salmon Veggie Noodle Casserole – Keto, Paleo, Dairy Free, Grain Free

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I LOVE casseroles. I love them because they can be made ahead of time, or when I’m in a hurry. And while they do take a while to bake, the prep and execution are easy.

I also love having things that don’t need to thaw or chop – aka chicken or beef because you should know I always forget to thaw my butcher box chicken until 4:50, and we don’t own a microwave. And while this recipe can be reasonably labor-intensive if you don’t have anything prepped already, if you do have premade, it is a breeze!

Having things prepped ahead of time like the spaghetti squash and bacon will save you time and make this a dump meal. I have a recipe here for my instant pot, spaghetti squash recipe. This recipe is by far the easiest way I have found to cook spaghetti squash. I make this once a week to have on hand for meals or lunches for Addie and me.

I also like to cook my bacon on a baking sheet in the oven to save time and save the mess that cooking bacon on a stove creates. This is one of the very few times I will use aluminum foil, mainly because it makes the whole process, including clean up, super easy!

After cooking my bacon, I like to pour the fat into my casserole dish instead of greasing it with something else, like cooking spray. I would only do this with good quality bacon. I only buy organic nitrite and nitrate-free bacon (because migraines are the worst), and I also look for sugar-free. Butcher box has great bacon, as well as Jones brand, which I find at our local Walmart. That is also where I find my frozen zucchini noodles. By all means, you could use fresh or make your own, but I like to have frozen on hand because they don’t spoil as fast.

If you do use frozen, make sure to thaw and squeeze out excess water, or your casserole can turn out a bit runny.

Along with that, it does help to sprinkle a little arrowroot starch over your salmon to absorb some of the liquid that is inevitable in this recipe. I suppose you could use cornstarch. I haven’t tried it as we don’t consume corn products. But the purpose is the same, so I imagine it would be a similar result.

This casserole is rich in healthy omegas, lots of protein. It is low carb, keto, paleo, whole 30, dairy-free,  IT TICS ALL THE BOXES. And it’s so filling. One plate will fill you up and keep you full.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I hope you enjoy this recipe as much as my family does. The day I made this, I put it in the oven and set the timer, and went upstairs to nurse Shirley. I had Nathan get it out of the oven for me, and he had to restrain himself from digging in before I got my pictures.

After I got downstairs and took the photos I needed to share with you, he ate five plates. Not because it’s not filling, but because he is a bottomless pit and loved it that much. I will say he skipped dinner that night.

Even Addie will eat it from time to time, though she is a hard one to sell on fish of any kind. I don’t push it too much, but I do keep trying. She used to hate beef and pork too, and now she’ll eat those without any hesitation. Moral of the story, keep trying to get your kids to eat foods that they say they do not like. Keep putting it on their plates(in small amounts) and have them try it. You never know when their tastebuds may change.

If you make this, let me know in the comments! I hope you enjoy it as much as our family does!

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Keto Salmon Zoodle Casserole -Paleo, Keto, GF, DF, Whole 30

This savory dump and bake casserole is every busy mom's dream. It's easy to make, and full of healthy fats and proteins.
Prep Time10 mins
Cook Time35 mins
Rest Time5 mins
Course: Dinner, Main Course, Side Dish
Cuisine: American, Ketogenic, Paleo
Keyword: Casserole, Dairyfree, Gluten Free, grainfree, Healthy, keto, Paleo, Quick
Servings: 8
Calories: 256kcal

Ingredients

  • 3 cans Salmon
  • 1-2 Cups Zoodles I use pre-made zoodles, but you could make your own with a spiralizer. Just make sure to squeeze out excess water.
  • 3 Cups Spinach tightly packed
  • 4 Cups Spaghetti Squash cooked

Sauce

  • 1 +1/4 cup Full Fat Coconut Milk
  • 1 + 1/2 Tbsp Yellow Mustard Omit for AIP
  • 2 Tbsp coconut aminos
  • 2 Tbsp Nutritional Yeast plus more for topping
  • 3/4 tsp Garlic Powder
  • 3/4 tsp Dill
  • 1 tsp dried Parsley
  • 1/2 tsp Onion Powder
  • 1/2 tsp Chives
  • 2 tsp sea salt plus more to taste

Topping

  • 4-5 slices Bacon cooked and diced
  • 1 tsp Nutritional Yeast
  • 2 Tbsp Plantain Chips crushed

Instructions

  • Preheat oven to 375
  • Grease your casserole dish. I like to use the leftover bacon grease from cooking the bacon
  • Drain and rinse the salmon and spread along the bottom of the dish. Sprinkle with your arrowroot powder. This helps absorb some of the liquid that will accumulate from the veggies.
  • Next, add the spinach, spaghetti squash, and then zoodles
  • Next, mix together the sauce ingredients and pour over the layers of casserole
  • Sprinkle bacon, crushed plantain chips, and nutritional yeast over the casserole
  • Bake in the oven for 35-40 minutes until it becomes crispy on top and bubbly around the edges
  • Remove from the oven and let sit for 5 minutes.
Instant Pot Spaghetti Squash

Instant Pot Spaghetti Squash

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Spaghetti squash. I love it, and I hate it. It always takes so much effort to cook…

UNTIL NOW! I introduce to you, the easiest instant pot spaghetti squash recipe ever!

No more cutting into a hard uncooked squash to scrape out seeds and roast in an oven for what feels like forever. This recipe only calls for 12-15 jabs of a knife into the flesh of the squash before putting the entire thing, along with a cup of water, into your instant pot for 18 minutes or so minutes(depending on the size of your squash). You can see from the above picture; my squash was just shy of 3 1/2 lbs.

I like to cook a squash every week and use the noodles for different recipes throughout the week, or for lunches for Addie and I. While spaghetti squash is low carb, it does not lack in flavor and versatility. I use it for my morning n’oatmeal sometimes, and I use it in casseroles like my, Salmon Veggie Noodle Casserole, I eat it plain with some sea salt and coconut oil.

Spaghetti squash is low in calories but high in fiber, vitamin C, manganese, and vitamin B6. It, like many other winter squash and veggies, is high in beta-carotene. This, along with vitamin C, makes it an antioxidant powerhouse in its respective way, and a valuable part of your winter diet.

One of the pros of cooking it in the instant pot whole is also that the stringy noodles stay a little more al-dente, of which I’m a big fan. I don’t know about you, but I don’t love soggy noodles. Cutting the squash widthwise rather than lengthwise also makes delicate long strings of “noodles as well.

Give this recipe a try and let me know what you think! Just be mindful of the size of your squash and know that you may need to adjust your timing a little.

Print Recipe

Easy Instant Pot Spaghetti Squash

This recipe is easy enough anyone can make it! It will have you eating this tricky squash on the regular.
Prep Time5 mins
Cook Time18 mins
Course: Dinner, Side Dish, Snack
Cuisine: American, GlutenFree, Ketogenic, LowCarb, Paleo
Keyword: Gluten Free, keto, Low-Carb, Paleo, Vegan, Veggies

Equipment

  • Instant Pot

Ingredients

  • 1 3.5 lb Spaghetti squash you can use a different sized squash but you'll need to adjust cooking time to accommodate

Instructions

  • Start by rinsing off your squash and removing any stickers or labels that may be on it
  • Next, you will use a sharp knife to carefully pierce the squash about 12-15 times all over. This will help it ventilate and breathe as it's cooking
  • Add a steamer basket or tray inside your instant pot so your squash isn't setting on the bottom of the pan
  • Add 1 cup of water, and your squash to the basket
  • Close the lid and seal the vent on your instant pot
  • Press the PRESSURE COOK button and set time to 18 minutes. Again, note, if your squash is heavier, it may need 2-3 more minutes, or if it's smaller, less time
  • After your instant pot completes the 18 minutes, allow it to depressurize for 10 minutes. It should unlock on its own at this point, but if it does not, you can manually unseal and depressurize the pot
  • Carefully remove your squash and place on a cutting board. Let sit for a few minutes to cool
  • Once your squash has cooled enough to touch, cut widthwise and allow to cool further
  • After your squash is cool enough to touch, you will first want to scrape out the seeds, and then you can peel the skin off or use a large spoon to scrape your noodles out carefully. It should be effortless
  • Store your noodles in an airtight container in the fridge for 4-5 days! Use for stir fry, casseroles, or just a side dish all on its own
Loving the Special Needs Parent in your Life – Part 2 – five ways to prepare

Loving the Special Needs Parent in your Life – Part 2 – five ways to prepare

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In my previous post, I touched on why special needs parents need some extra love and support, but today, I want to help you prepare.

Yes, it may seem silly that you have to prepare to encourage and serve someone, but these thoughtful considerations will not only make those you’re reaching out to feel valued, but it’ll make your life a lot easier too.

So that said, here are five ways you can prepare to love that friend who has a child with special needs.

Commit to the long haul; this special needs parent doesn’t get a break or a vacation, or reprieve from this reality. Unless there is a cure or miracle, caring for their child is their future. Be willing to come alongside them, not just when they receive the diagnosis, or things are publically intense, but when the years pass and their arms are weary, and their hearts are heavy. Be in it for the long haul. However, that may look for you.

Do not be easily offended; sometimes, you may offer to help or a word of advice that isn’t received as enthusiastically as you anticipated. It’s okay. There have been mornings where women have offered to watch Adelaide for me. And while sometimes this could be helpful other times, Shirley is napping, and Addie and I are having quality time together, and it is vital that I guard those one-on-one times with her rather than disrupt them. You don’t always see the whole picture, so be gracious if they turn you down.

Be available; Obviously, you cannot be available 24/7. No one is asking that of you. But it is helpful if you try to make your availability clear to your friend. So they know, most Sunday evenings from 7-8, you are free if they need help or a listening ear, and if you’re not free, you’ll let them know ahead of time. That steady, consistent presence is immeasurable! It doesn’t mean they’ll need you every single Sunday, but knowing there’s someone they can call on if they need it, speaks volumes.

Take time to research their child’s diagnosis (if there is one and they wish for you to know); I cannot speak for all special needs parents, but personally speaking, this has been so valuable. Shirley is 1 of 300 kids worldwide. Her diagnosis doesn’t even have an official name. No one has a clue what it is, so I spend most of my conversations (and energy) explaining her condition. Those who took the time to study and understand Shirley’s diagnosis and what it meant for her and our future (particularly right after we received it, and I told them) meant the world to me. It showed me they wanted to understand. And that understanding saved me from ignorant comments based on a lack of knowledge.

Love their child; This may seem obvious, but this parent needs to know that you genuinely love their kid. Pitty is degrading and never helpful. But genuine love sees the “wonderfully and fearfully made” part of their kid and cherishes it. Love sees their child as more than the challenges they face, but as a precious life with immeasurable value.

Know that you aren’t going to do everything right, but I genuinely believe if you do these five things, it will set you up to love that hurting parent well. It shows them you care, not just about the hubbub surround their child, but you genuinely care about their well being and heart, and you love their child.

Stay tuned for some practical things you can do to serve that parent!